Tears are a baby’s way of communicating, and research shows that responding with love and comfort is crucial for healthy development. Studies indicate that letting infants “cry it out” for extended periods without any soothing can have harmful effects. Prolonged, unsoothed crying is linked to elevated stress hormones, altered brain development, and long-term impacts on emotional security and trust.
When babies cry, they are expressing needs, signaling discomfort, or seeking connection. Their brains are in critical stages of growth, learning whether their environment is safe or threatening. Caregivers who respond with touch, gentle voice, or simply their presence help babies regulate emotions, develop trust, and feel secure. This consistent responsiveness teaches infants that the world can be predictable and safe, which is foundational for emotional resilience.
Ignoring a baby’s cries, on the other hand, keeps their stress response active. Research shows that this can lead to higher cortisol levels, disrupt brain circuits responsible for fear, attachment, and emotional regulation, and influence how the child manages stress and relationships later in life.
Being present does not require perfection from parents. Small, consistent acts of comfort—holding, speaking softly, or simply being there—have a lasting impact. Crying is a natural expression, but comfort and attention build strong emotional and cognitive foundations. The care and reassurance provided in these early years become the child’s inner sense of safety and self later on. Soothing a baby is not spoiling them; it is nurturing their brain, heart, and emotional future.